As most of you know, I am on a journey of getting healthy. And this is a very good thing! Those who have known me for many years will know that, when it comes to me, I have some self-confidence issues, especially when it comes to my body. But that has been changing slowly as I have been getting healthier. Dropping 45+ piunds in under 6 months has been a big boost for me. So I have been getting more brave when it comes to doing the thing every single guy dreads.....talking to women!
This has always been something I have struggled with. Especially when it comes to asking someone on a date. So with this new self confidence in tow, I have been more active in talking to women around me, just in normal conversation, kind of practicing and building myself up. But something happened this week that has shot all that confidence back to zero.
I ran into an acquantiance here in town (and no, I will not be divulging any names, I respect this person more than that). We chatted for a little bit, as we had not seen each other in a while, and I casually said, "hey, we should grab a bite to eat sometime, maybe Mexican or Chineese." Very inocuous I thought. She looked me dead in the eye, and said, straight faced "Aren't you kinda fat to be asking me out?" I. Was. Floored!!!! I have had people call me big, fat , whatever before. And I get it, cause I know what I look like, but that went beyond cruel into a realm I did not know exsisted. So yeah, my confidence took a big hit.
Now, before anyone says anything bad, I understand, she is not worth my time. And that is true, no one deserves to be treated that way. And I have had several friends confirm that for me. But really? I mean come on. Look, ladies, you do not know how hard it is for a guy to ask you out. It is not easy at all! So at least be nice to us. We are trying. Maybe she had a bad day, maybe she just really didn't want to be nice, I don't know. remember, we are human beings too, and we have feelings!
